Ah, Resistance…Thou Art Such a “Beyotch”
The Urban dictionary defines beyotch (pronounced bee yotch) as a friendly use of the word “bitch”. The Spiritual Renegade is using this word so she doesn’t have to put another dollar in the “no cursing jar.” (Kidding, of course!)
“This is what I want to do or who I want to be,” we tell ourselves.
Next, we set out to make change. We take those tentative steps forward toward a new direction or life.
As we do so, our energy increases. Ideas flow forth. Doors open. We feel guided, supported and sometimes, led.
Then, Wham! Our forward movement comes to an unexpected, screeching halt when into our lives walks the change-killer.
Ahh, Resistance…thou art such a beyotch.
Like an uninvited house guest, it arrives at our door step without warning and never during a convenient time. With our “baggage” clearly in its hand, Resistance cajoles, “Be sensible…you can’t pursue that dream or make this change right now. First, you need to…”
First, we need to…what?
Get a job, get a new job, get married, get a divorce, move to a new home, move across country, clean the house, figure “everything” out, wait until our kids grow up, retire, lose weight, save enough money, work on our self-esteem, etc.
The ‘what’ doesn’t actually matter, though, for Resistance’s intended effect is to place our lives on hold. It’s purpose is to stop all change.
And when it shows up, rather than create success strategies to make change or live our dreams, we embrace the ever infamous, delaying tactics. Inaction—with a side of surfing the Internet, watching TV or whatever else—replaces much needed, action steps.
Thus, in order to kick Resistance’s unwelcome butt to the curb, we need to realize its presence in our lives is the outward manifestation of our internal dialogue. The one that repeatedly thinks and says, “I can’t ____.”
What we need to do is change “I can’t” to “I will _____.” I will see this through. I will make this change. I will finish this.
In doing so, we discover how our creative self responds to the thoughts with which we supply it.
That if we truly want to change our life, including how we experience it, “what we really need to do first” is change our thoughts.